Aren’t you trying to live your best life right now? Let me tell you a little secret. Self-sabotage is one of the many things that can prevent that. Unfortunately. Improving your lifestyle should be something you actively try to do every single day. I say this because improving your lifestyle will only benefit you and will never hurt you. In this blog post, I am going to share with you 10 self-sabotaging habits you need to quit right now. Quitting these toxic habits will get you to live your best life in no time!

1. Stressing over things you can’t control

It’s easier said than done but trust me, not focusing on things you can’t control will lift a weight off of your shoulders you never knew you had. Even the smallest things that you worry about are affecting you in a bad way. Try letting it go and just letting life do its thing. If you can’t control it, there’s nothing you can do about it. It’s going to happen anyway. Focus on the things you can control such as your habits, reactions, thoughts, and the people you surround yourself with.

2. Spending too much time on your cell phone

Spending too much time on your cell phone is considered toxic because you’re not allowing yourself to focus on the things that matter. The life that is going on around you. And spending too much time on social media is just bad for your mental health in general so you should cut down on that as well. Replace your screen time with other activities such as reading a book, listening to a podcast, writing in a journal, or exercising.

3. Neglecting your mental health

This is the most toxic habit that you can have. If you neglect your mental health, it’s easy to neglect your physical health. Make sure you pay attention to these things and look after yourself. Take care of yourself. No one else will. Neglecting your mental health means you don’t care. And you have to care about yourself to live your best life. A happy and healthy life. Little do you know, while mental illness might be in your brain, it affects your entire body. So ask for help if you need it. Reach out to someone, even if it’s a girl behind a blog aka me! Your mental health matters and it should always be a priority.

4. Neglecting your physical health

Just like mental health, physical health is important also. Failing to care for yourself physically, can result in poor mental health outcomes. Invest in your health. Maintain a healthy diet and stop avoiding routine checkups with your doctor. These things are important. I know that the diet part is easier said than done but try starting with replacing sweets with natural ingredients. Start somewhere. Other ways to improve your physical health can be walking 20 minutes daily, sleeping earlier, and drinking enough water.

5. Gossiping

The only business you should be tending to is your own. You will not end up living a happy life if you’re gossiping and worrying about someone else’s. Mind your own business. And I’m not saying that to be mean or harsh but to just be honest with you. Focus only on yourself and your life and watch how you blossom. The more time you focus on others, the less time you give yourself to grow and improve. And I want you to grow and improve. So say NO to gossiping as tempting as it may be.

6. Not forgiving and holding grudges

It’s simple. Forgive and forget. When you forgive someone, you are doing it for yourself, not for them. Because when you don’t forgive someone, you are only hurting yourself. I say this because while you are holding a grudge, that person you’re upset at is out there living their life while you’re stuck dwelling on what they did. That’s not a way to live. You’re giving them satisfaction. Forgive people for what they have done to you and let it go. And I know some things are very damaging and hurtful. But you still have to forgive people for yourself so you can move on.

Holding a grudge will only cause you to carry unnecessary weight around that you don’t need on your shoulders. Trust me. I know it’s hard. I’ve had some hurtful things happen to me before. But I had to forgive those people because I knew that they had already moved on with their lives. So why would I put my life on pause to stay angry and dwell on what happened? I knew that I deserved to be happy so I let it go. You deserve to be happy so forgive and let it go.

7. Not being grateful

Instead of focusing on what you don’t have and what you want, focus on what you have right now. Be grateful for everything that you have. Whether it’s a job, family, love, or money, you have something to be grateful for. If you’re alive and breathing, you have something to be grateful for. If you’re living in a home and not on the streets, you have something to be grateful for. Think of the less fortunate. They’d love to have what you take for granted every single day. A gratitude journal can help you practice gratitude and help you learn to be grateful for the things that you have and the people you have around you who love you.

8. Giving up quickly

You don’t know what you’re capable of. But I do. You can do anything that you put your mind to. Don’t be so quick to give up when things get hard. And I’m sure you know already that nothing comes easy. So just be persistent. Keep going, keep working, and keep fighting for your dreams. Don’t get discouraged and give up because you’ll soon regret doing that.

9. Settling for less

Never settle for less. You deserve nothing but the best. Aspire for more. I’m not talking about just relationships but in general. Never settle. If you’re not satisfied or feeling unhappy, don’t settle. Allow yourself to achieve more and live more.

10. Competing with others

This is self-sabotaging more than you think. Competition just to be better than someone is not okay. Do you know who you need to compete with? Yourself. Life is a gift, not a competition. If you want to compete with someone, compete with the version of yourself you were yesterday and the day before that, and so on.

When you see someone better at something, admire it. Admire their hard work, their capacity, and their talent but never question yours. The competition for you is yourself. Try to be better than you are today. Try to be the best version of yourself. Compare yourself with yourself, no one else but yourself.

Start living your best life without self-sabotaging habits

There are so many self-sabotaging and toxic habits in life to quit, but these 10 habits are habits that I have personally dealt with and seen others deal with. If you practice any of these habits, I encourage you to stop them now. It is time to start living your best life. You deserve to live a life free of toxic habits.