Accepting yourself isn’t something that’s easy to do and it doesn’t happen overnight. Self-acceptance definitely comes with its own work that you will have to be willing to put in. But when you accept yourself with all of your flaws and unique talents, the world seems to become a more adaptable place. And that is the beauty of it. I say this because you’ll find that some of the causes of your stress disappear and you can gain more happiness daily.
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Accepting yourself completely involves courage, wisdom, and compassion. If you’re suffering from negative emotions such as anxiety, jealousy, shame, anger, envy, or guilt, these may be signs of low self-esteem. To counter this, you can learn complete self-acceptance and begin living a happier and healthier life.
It’s Okay If You Struggle With Accepting Yourself
I used to struggle with accepting myself when I was much younger. And to be honest, I still find myself struggling today at times. I have never fit in with my siblings and still today I don’t. That may not bother many people but it bothers me because it causes us to not be close. It’s like I stand out and it shows significantly. My brother and sister are more alike and then there’s me. I’ve always wished we could be close to each other how brothers and sisters are supposed to be but it just never worked out and I guess it never will. So of course, growing up, I struggled with accepting who I was as a person. It made me question myself a lot.
But in all honesty, I can’t waste my energy or time on that type of stuff anymore. I learned that when you dwell on things you can’t control, all it does is stress you out and cause only yourself to hurt.
Take it from me. What’s meant to be will be. What’s not meant to be.. let it go and move on with your life. It’s what’s best for your mental health.
How To Develop Self-Acceptance
To develop self-acceptance, you must believe in your natural worth and uniqueness. There’s no one else in the world that is like you and you’re constantly changing and developing. Your value cannot be measured by how others perceive you.
You’re also aware of the imperfection of human nature, right? No one is perfect. Even God had to struggle to achieve his goals. Likewise, you must also work to improve yourself. It is okay to be a work in progress. Let this be your joy.
When you make a mistake, refrain from judging yourself. Refrain from labeling yourself as a failure or a bad person because of past mistakes. We all make mistakes. You wouldn’t label your child a failure or a loser because they failed a test, right? Be compassionate with yourself too.
How Low Self-Esteem Can Hinder Self-Acceptance
If you have low self-esteem, you can get caught up in refusal to accept your own uniqueness and capability for transformation. You may be a perfectionist, and when things don’t go well, you often tell yourself that you’re not good enough. It becomes a vicious cycle of negative self-fulfilling predictions.
Signs of low self-esteem include:
- saying negative things and being critical about yourself
- not accepting compliments
- focusing on your negatives and ignoring your achievements
- feeling sad, anxious, depressed, ashamed, or angry
- thinking other people are better than you
But what can you do to turn this around?
Suppose you start to appreciate the world around you. Then you’re aware of your place. You realize that just as others are important to your well-being, your existence supports others, too. Since appreciation is a requirement for self-esteem, you’re now on your way to self-acceptance.
Accept Your Mistakes And Move On
When you review your mistakes, you may feel remorse and disappointment, but these are healthy reactions believe it or not. They’ll help you to change your behavior to something you like better.
Remorse and disappointment are different from just blaming yourself, which can lead to depression, guilt and shame. These unhealthy emotions may cause you to give up or avoid facing your mistakes and this is something you want to avoid doing. Instead, look toward what you can do to change your actions next time.
Avoid Excusing Yourself From Your Mistakes
It’s okay to tell yourself that you’re human and prone to make a mistake, but if you use this to refuse to face your mistakes, you won’t grow. You need to allow yourself to grow. So instead, work on improving yourself. This will help you accept what you did but put it in the past and move on.
But once you put whatever you did in the past, it’s important to keep it there. Don’t dwell on it or keep bringing it up. This will only bring on unhealthy emotions that will hinder self-acceptance. Just leave it in the past and don’t look back. Keep looking forward.
Use Positive Self-talk
Refrain from calling yourself names like “idiot,” “total failure” or “loser.” Get in the habit of complimenting yourself instead. Reinforce the qualities about you that you like by telling yourself things like “I can do this,” “I’m good at this,” or “I can find a solution to this challenge.”
I know how difficult it can be to hush up your inner critic but when you’re trying to develop self-acceptance, it has to be done. To hush it up, try using positive affirmations. Being kind to yourself while your inner critic is trying to do the opposite can actually help you.
Accept Your Imperfections
Guess what? We are all human and we all have some type of imperfections. Instead of dwelling on them, just learn to accept them for what they are. Accepting your imperfections may just be the thing you need to help you find true meaning in life.
“Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are.”–Brené Brown
Take It One Day At A Time
Following these guidelines will help you develop self-acceptance over time. It may take some practice to master these new ways of thinking about yourself, but the rewards will be worth it. Soon you’ll be enjoying life more and find it more fulfilling than you ever imagined. I can’t wait to see that for you.